One of many posts about maculinity
Brené Brown, in ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’, said,
When looking at the attributes associated with masculinity, researchers identified these as important attributes for men: emotional control, primacy of work, control over women and pursuit of status. That means that if men want to play it safe, they need to stop feeling, start earning, and give up on meaningful connection.
For generations men have learned to contain themselves in a prison of control, striving to conform to what they see as masculinity in others.
This is pretty depressing although not surprising. The generations before me were stuck in a role defined and perpetuated by men trying to achieve control, wanting to conform to an ideal that didn't exist.
The question comes down to what is authentic.
She says:
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re suppose to be and embracing who we are.
This sounds like yoga to me. We need to practice everyday to break the mold and be authentic.